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Girls, Girls, Girls

Regardless of your sexual orientation, I think we can all agree that girls can be pretty intimidating. There never seems to exist, the easiest way to talk to them. It is not in class, not at the cafeteria, not on the bus, not while waiting for the bus, not online. It’s just so hard. Alcohol and wing-men may come and go, but the fear remains at parties - house parties, beach parties, RAVES.

After worldwide secondary research and much consultation with the girls at Jetron Ticket, here are a few step(s) to follow when talking to girls at parties.

Step 1(-5): Don’t drug them.

A crucial first step, but many rookies seem to fail this one, not knowing, apparently, that it’s that easy. Just don’t do it. Don’t do the research, don’t mix potions, don’t introduce yourself with that drink in your hand, and don’t hand it to a girl, or anyone for that matter. Just don’t.

We’ll play a quick game, but first let's learn a few quickfire terms.

1. Consent: Sexual consent is when you willingly agree to sexual activity. Legally, you can’t give consent if you’re underage, intoxicated, asleep, or have certain disabilities.

2. Spiking: To spike a drink means to put alcohol or drugs into someone's drink without their knowledge or permission.

3. Roofied: The term “roofie” came about in the late 90s. Originally, it referred to a drug called Redacted (or flun!@$%&epam).

4. Date Rape: a form of acquaintance rape and dating violence. The two phrases are often used interchangeably, but date rape specifically refers to a rape in which there has been some sort of romantic or potentially sexual relationship between the two parties.

Now for the game, we’ll string our new words into a sentence:

A person you’re seeing, whose drink has been spiked or roofied, cannot consent to sex or any sexual acts, and so any interaction of that nature will be considered date rape.

Look how smoothly we made that into a sentence?

Published in the American Psychological Association’s Psychology of Violence journal, the resulting study— “Just a Dare or Unaware? Outcomes and Motives of Drugging (‘Drink Spiking’) Among Students at Three College Campuses”—asserts that drink spiking is a very real threat to women on campus….and of those students, broken down by gender, 16.8 percent of women reported that they had had “unwanted sex” after being given a spiked drink.

Now, let’s bring these facts to Nigeria. Like many countries, but most of all in Nigeria, Rape cases seem to go underreported. Why do you think that is?

Stigma is one of them. But another is classic victim blaming:

“What were you doing at the party?”
“Studying for ICAN, what do you think I was doing at the party?”

“What were you wearing?”
“I’m not sure how that’s relevant, but something that clashed with the colour of the drink for sure! Lol. (men are t^@$h)

“Why did you accept a drink from a stranger?”
“He wasn’t a stranger, I know him. At least I thought I did”.

In case we haven’t made it clear:

We at Jetron Ticket condemn Incel culture, and the self-imposed “loneliness epidemic” that affects most men, calcifying into active hate towards all women, fueling misogyny, femicides, and overall gender inequality.

You are not entitled to women. They are not a reward for the brave act of talking to them, and no is a complete sentence. With the onslaught of easy access tech surveillance and AI revenge porn, women don’t seem to be safe anywhere, but they will be at the parties we host.

“But, guy, I hear a lot of don’ts, what about dos?”

Well,

DO HAVE GAME.

I mean, we are not a coaching website.

Thank you so much for reading, and happy Sexual Awareness Month. Please go out to a party (you know where to find THEM) and talk to girls there, pretty please don’t drug them or harass them in any way, okay? Thank you. Love you.

Lest we forget, it IS your civil duty as a member of the human race to help and stand in for anyone you observe in a compromising situation that could be a threat to their safety.

Okay, bye now.